Monday, February 14, 2011

It's Time to Be Real

Many blogs are written about the flowers, sunshine, and rainbows in each person's life. But let's face it..everyone's life has a few rainy days here & there. So, without further ado, I will tell you about why Kyle & I just needed to find time to get away & refocus on us.

When I was about 34 weeks pregnant, my contractions started. I was in and out of the hospital until our darling Kinsley Anne was born 1.5wks later. Kinsley Anne went straight to NICU for 6 long & tiresome days. I was emotionally drained & Kyle had to be the stoic one...as usual. Things were going pretty well other than trying to adjust to parenthood & having to go back to work & leave Kinsley Anne in the care of someone else. Then 6 weeks ago, Kinsley & I both started to get sick. I was tired & probably grumpy. Kyle then started his MBA class, which is every week. That leaves a very tired Kyle from his 13+ hour day & a very tired me for going to work & coming home to care for Kinsley by myself until bedtime. Bills started streaming in from my labor & delivery, Kinsley's NICU stay, her CT scans, etc. I continued to be stressed about Kinsley's illness that progressively worsened over 5 weeks. I had to ignore my pediatrician's recommendations, find a new pediatrician, & ultimately rely on our pediatric pulmonologist. By no means are any of these matters earth-shattering, but it was a lot. We basically stopped talking Kyle & Jen and instead went to Mama & Daddy mode. We forgot to hug & kiss for no reason. We said "i love you" before bed & before going to work. We fell into a routine...one that I didn't particularly enjoy. We both shared responsibility & fortunately, we weren't blaming each other for the problems we were having.

So, Kyle started investigating his hotel rewards points from when he was living in China. He had oodles of points that we hadn't used. He secretly looked into places that we could go...someplace nice. He chose the Grand Bohemian Hotel in Asheville, NC. He asked his mom when she was available to babysit Kinsley for an overnight & decided that this past weekend was our go-date. So, he surprised me with a mini-getaway. IT WAS FABULOUS.

We focused on us. love. being together. showing affection to one another. just because. talking. life. smiling. All of it was just what we needed. I can't emphasize to you how much it meant for just 48 hours to get away from the stress of our routine life & just relax. We reconnected in ways that I couldn't have even hoped for.

From the moment we drove up to our valet-only hotel, we were treated with such respect. A "Welcome James [my husband's real first name] & congratulations on your Gold Status" awaited us at the front desk. We were asked numerous times if we needed help with our luggage. Thehy showed us how to get to our room...and this is what awaited us upstairs.....




It was perfect. I kept saying that the room reminded me of a spa. Kyle thought that it reminded him of an Old World European hunting lodge. The serene blue walls, soaking tub with jacuzzi jets, rainfall shower head, bronze fixtures, antler chandeliers, and original artwork hanging on the wall accented by spotlights added up to the perfect resting place for Kyle & I.

There is more on our amazing mini-getaway in a post to come (probably on Wednesday).

Until Next Time..
Love, Jen

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