Wednesday, February 3, 2010

It's All A Choice

So, a nursing friend from Clemson posted this week on her blog and it has made me think a lot. She has no idea, but it has affected me big time over the last few days. She said that being joyful is a choice. Now, most people would say that joy has a lot to do with circumstances. But, I believe you have the choice to be joyful or drown yourself in self-pity even in the worst of circumstances. We all have good and bad months or maybe even years, but is that really enough to say "Well, with all the health problems that I've been through, I don't have time to thank God for the good in my life" or, "With all of the trouble I've had at work, I don't have time to smile?"

Let me just say, you never know who's watching you. And no, I don't mean that in a "I Know What You Did Last Summer" creepster sort of way. I mean that you don't know who you'll affect positively by just smiling and saying 'hey' or who's day you'll make turn around for the better just by giving them a hug and asking how they're doing instead of telling them how bad your day's been. I am not always the best at this. I promise, I often leave conversations thinking, I sure did talk a lot after that person said "how are you doing" and I didn't give them much of a chance to say how they are. But, I'm working on it.

My mom frequently told my sister and I as kids and continues to tell us even now, that "This too shall pass." I took that to heart when I was sick last year and have also thought a lot about the other sayings of my wise mom, such as "no matter how bad you think you have it, there's always someone worse off than yourself." Keep in mind that while you have been sick for 2 weeks, your boss has been a jerk, you stubbed your toe three times in a day, and/or you and your boyfriend/fiance/husband got in a fight, there are parents out their kissing their infant children goodbye for the last time, people are watching their parents deteriorate from terminal cancer, and even just now someone got in a terrible car wreck that may put them in a wheelchair for the rest of their life.

So, I ask you to do this along with me: Choose to smile, choose to ask others how they are, choose to give hugs, choose to greet your loved one with a kiss at the door, choose to be joyful despite what life hands you.

I'll step down off my soapbox now & tell you it's been about 8 months since I got out of the hospital and about 7 months spent in remission, so I am choosing to focus on THAT AMAZING BLESSING right now!!!! I am actually headed downstairs for some routine GI bloodwork & then going home to celebrate Bowen's 1st birthday. Katy (sis) told me today that if my dog is getting a 1st birthday celebration she can't wait to see what my kids "of the human variety" do for their 1st birthday...my kids are in trouble. They will have one crazy mom, that's for sure.

Quick & General Update on Misc Life Occurrences:
1) We have caught nothing else since those 2 possums
2) My mom & nanny have decided to come spend Easter down south! We will miss having dad, but, hey, somebody's gotta make money, right?! :)
3) Bowen is going to a NAVDHA test the 1st weekend of March. This is a "Natural Abilities" (NA) Test. He will have to jump into water to retrieve bumpers, trail birds and retrieve them, etc. He will love every minute I'm sure and I can't wait to get some pretty action shots of him doing what he loves best.
4) Katy & Stephen are getting a lab puppy this weekend. Can't wait to see Bowen and ____ (puppy currently unnamed) play together!! She will quickly learn that the dog will be her child.
5) I saw Lovely Bones with Kelsea, GREAT MOVIE & we will probably forever be fearful of cornfields.
6)I read a fabulous book called A Friend Like Henry about an Autistic little boy. His family adopts a golden retriever who miraculously unlocks this child's world. Great read and it is going to allow me to seriously sympathize with my autistic patients and their families. I understand just a little bit more of their daily battles.

And I'll leave you with this pretty quote by Anne Frank:
"The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature, and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature."

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